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Her Abortion Caused Her to Lose Her Best Friends
Book reveals abortion’s painful aftermath.
A post-abortive woman’s story shows the damage an abortion can inflict on one’s closest relationships.
In her 2019 book, therapist Ellie Shumaker wrote about some of the post-abortive women who came to her for counseling. Shumaker changed names and identifying details to protect her clients’ privacy, but the stories are true.
The Loss of a Best Friend Over an Abortion
Julie came in for counseling soon after her abortion. In one session, she said to Shumaker, “I thought I was lonely before. I didn’t even know the meaning of the word.”
Julie had just had a falling out with her best friend of three years over her abortion. She says:
My best friend Sonia-or at least, I thought she was my best friend-won’t even talk to me anymore. She thinks I should just get over it. She’s sick of me crying and talking about the abortion.
Sonia said to Julie, “Grow up, Julie. You decided to sleep with Tony. You decided to have the abortion. Live with it.”
Julie wished she could just “live with it.” She says:
[S]he has a point. It’s what I keep saying to myself, but I just couldn’t…